It’s no surprise that that there are abusers out in the world, and there are those that are abused. It’s an unfortunate state of affairs when a hearing person results in abusing a deaf person who already struggles excessively in life, far more than the average joe blow. A deaf person already faces discrimination and hostility from the hearing world at large from a variety of sources for a variety of reasons, from something minor like getting irritated with our communication needs when it’s so super easy for the hearing person to just speak and hating having to write something down for us all the way to the extreme of constant online bullying and harassment to being beaten by our family or partners.
Many of us mainstreamed deafs turn to the internet as a way of dealing with our depression that stems from the feeling of isolation. This feeling of isolation comes from the inability for us to be able to properly communicate with someone face to face, at least not easily.
To be even in a one on one conversation, lip reading and using what residual hearing we have left, if we have any at all, is not only challenging, but also mentally exhausting. But when it comes to group settings, the cards are just not in our favor, conversations end up going on and we’re left in the dust unable to keep up.
This is why the internet is so important to mainstreamed deafs overall. It allows us some semblance of having some form of normalcy as a way of being able to actually participate. It’s nowhere near as good as the real thing in person, that’s a given, but it’s definitely helpful and at least it’s something.
The biggest issue involving dealing with the internet, however, tend to be those who claim to know what it’s like to experience cyber bullying, they claim to be against bullying, against harassment, against stalking, against making someone into a victim. They decry abuse, unfortunately a lot of these very same people are more than willing to dish out the abuse they so claim to be against.
These kinds of people will claim to even be advocates of the disabled, but at a moment’s turn, they reveal themselves to be a venomous snake that was doing nothing more than awaiting your trust so your guard will be down, and once that guard is down, BOOM they strike.
Granted not everyone is like that, not by a long shot, but online abuse has made me exceptionally weary of people who don’t share my disability. If they’re not at least moderately hard of hearing, I tend to be exceptionally more cautious around them, even more so if they’re hearing.
I’m even leery of people that share my sexuality on account that they too will turn on you. No community is perfect, not by a long shot, but it is a rather sad state of affairs when the disabled are abused. Unfortunately the people that do the abuse, don’t tend to believe they’re doing any abuse.